Ok so I am having a hard time “Finding the Good” in my schedule!! Summer is here for me and with it comes the horse shows, hay season, and a lot of early mornings! I will, however be happy when school is finally out. Our boys are a great help around the farm and to not have to make sure Jarred doesn’t miss the bus is always a bonus.
Raising your kids on a farm has its benefits for us and for them. Who wouldn’t want to hang out at a place with acres of trails to four wheeler on and shoot paintballs at each other? Often there are enough friends around the chores can get done in minutes and none of them seem to mind to help in exchange for a ride to soccer or hockey in the winter. One night we had to take two trucks to transport everyone to the soccer practice! The other parents help too by taking them to games when we can’t or trading one kid for another when we have each boy playing at two different places. We also have one family who takes our boys camping with them – something we are never able to do in the summer. So my boys never miss out on things and I think the most important part of being a kid is just that – being a kid.
The farm has also taught my boys to be generous and helpful. We have literally opened our home to the people who board here and the students who ride. They have learned to like each one for who they are and help those who need help. It is a great feeling to see a ten year old carry a saddle down the hall for someone with their hands full or a 13 year old give advice to an adult about tack. Owning animals is always a good lesson for kids. I love that my boys care for their animals with understanding and love – but best of all they care for everyone’s the same. Sure they likely favour their own but they treat all of them with equal respect.
The farm has taught them to accept disappointment and loss also. Not a lesson anyone wants to teach their kids but definitely one that needs to be taught. We have dealt with a great deal of sadness in the last couple years and it seems like when we just recover from one thing another takes its place. The boys seem to handle it ok – no one really knows how it affects each of us. It is the one thing I wish I could avoid but they seem to have learned that even though you work hard and do your best we can’t control some things.
The other thing that is hard to teach your kids is how others behave. We teach them to be kind and caring and treat others with respect ….but sometimes others don’t respond the same way. It is hard to explain to them how to handle those situations when your first instinct is to react poorly. I try to tell them if you stay true to yourself and those close to you then others will appreciate who you are. If they don’t then it just means they haven’t taken the time to get to know you – and that is too bad for
them. All you can do is work hard and set goals for yourself – the people who support you are the people who matter. I must say that between my students parents and most of our fellow competitors they are awesome. It is so rewarding to see them all work together and support each other. I am proud of every one of them!!